Editor’s note: This was contributed by Elliott Zaagman a trainer, coach, and change management consultant who specializes in aiding Chinese companies as they globalize. To contact him, check him out on LinkedIn, or add ezaagman on WeChat.

A while ago, I was speaking with a friend of mine. She had been one of my best friends for years, one of those friends who you don’t feel uncomfortable to ask the really big favors of, or tell the embarrassing secret. She’s loyal, caring, and just a damn good person. Now around thirty years old, she was telling me about her frustrations trying to claim credit for her ideas and performance at work, and get promoted in her highly-competitive field.

“Everyone keeps telling me that I’m too nice, and that no one will take me seriously as a boss unless I behave more like an asshole,” she said.

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